In The Loop with Andy Andrews, hosted by David Loy
On this week’s episode, I answer a listener question on what it really takes to have a successful marriage.
Occasionally you hear people say, “We don’t have any problems. We don’t fight ever.”
- Anytime I hear that, I always think that somebody is being fooled.
- I don’t know how two people can exist and not have to work some things out.
- If you have ever been involved in a long-term friendship, there have been moments that you could have walked away from the friend and never done anything with them again.
- A marriage is more than just a long-term friendship.
Polly and I have a working marriage. It’s a consistent work in progress.
- I think we all go through moments where we feel like we can’t stand a person anymore. That’s human nature.
- The commitment to how things should be has to be larger than a momentary feeling of disagreement.
Our first couple of years were the hardest part of our marriage.
- We got married, and to our horror, found out how different we were from one another. I panicked for a little while.
- I remembered Jones telling me that if two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.
I think that the kids knowing that your decisions are for your long-term future really affects them.
- Even though we disagree or get mad, there is a larger purpose that the boys know they are a part of, too.
I think the best marriage book ever written is Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. It firmly grasps the idea of what both people need.
